Sunday, December 15, 2013

Day 4: Gotcha Day !!!



Day 4:    Gotcha day
                We had a delicious breakfast, with lots of choices. When we ate breakfast we ran into several Americans who had Chinese children (through adoption). Some were heading home, others were half-way through their journey, and others were waiting like us. We met Helen there too, and she instructed us to be in the hotel lobby at 2:15 sharp…..
                Wow, I’m in shock that it’s really going to be a few hours from meeting our daughter! I’ve dreamed about this day for so very long. Emotions were running high, Brian was slightly nervous, me an eerie kind of calm. I paced back and forth, even checking the battery power on both the cameras several times. I re-checked her diaper bag also. I prayed that God would help Hadley, and Evelyn and whoever else accompanied her to the civil affairs office. My worst fear was that she would reject me from the beginning! I’ve wondered time after time what her first impression of me would be for her. Would she know just how much I love her? Would she know that I have been waiting for her forever? Would she be able to love me someday? Lots and lots of thoughts go through an adoptive families mind when waiting for this moment.
                2:00 sharp we went to the lobby, once there we met an incredible couple Michael & Mary. They were from Ohio, and were close to our age. They too were an AWAA family, and were going with us to the Civil Affairs Office for their Gotcha Day. They were adopting a little boy, and had two children waiting on them back home. We small talked during the ride over, and both shared how nervous we were. 20 minutes later we were there and Helen rushed us inside and up to the floor where the adoption center was.











                When the elevator door opened I noticed a girl that appeared to be about 5-6 years old. She sat with a very solemn but serious look on her face. She was crying and a lady (her nanny) was wiping her tears as they fell. My heart broke for her. I can’t imagine what fear she had about what was about to happen to her. Her whole world as she knew it was getting ready to be changed forever.  When we went in Helen told us to sit down on the couch and wait. Both Michael & Mary, along with Brian and I commented on the little one crying in the hall, and Brian looked at me and said “I’m a nervous wreck!” I wasn’t nervous! I was emotionally overwhelmed. The room was full of families, some had gotten their children, and some were still waiting. Everywhere I looked there was someone crying, either a parent, a nanny, but mostly children. I remember prayer “God please help these little ones” Helen came over and told us it may be awhile, our children were coming from a long way away.
                About 3 minutes later in walked a nanny holding a little boy, and behind them was our daughter. I looked up and saw Evelyn and Earl, who was holding our sweet girl. Hadley was just looking around and appeared to be calm and happy. I wanted to jump up so bad and run to her and kiss her sweet face. But rules and policy stood in my way. They were rushed back into this room. Then Mary and Michael were given their little one.  Jude did have a emotional breakdown, but they handled it wonderfully.
                Helen turned to us and said “it’s your turn, come get your baby!”  Out walked Evelyn and Earl and I reached out for Hadley. Although she didn’t reach for me, she let me take her and hold her. She doesn’t miss anything!!! I told her I had been waiting for her, and I shook Evelyn and Earl’s hands, and told them “Thank you”. They both had tears in their eyes…. I knew this was extremely hard on them. I held her for just a few minutes, and then I handed her to Brian. His eyes were full of tears, she went straight to him. We gave her a sucker and she took it and then tired to give it to Brian to eat. Brian said “we are going to do just fine” I knew at that moment she had Daddy in the palm of her hand.
                Hadley never had a look of fear, she laughed at Brian and I, and she wanted to get down a play with the stacking blocks we brought for her. Earl and Evelyn had brought all of her belongings. As we looked around the room we were humbled that out of all of these children our little one had luggage.  Most orphans come with nothing, not our girl. She came with stuff, and more stuff. God has been so good to us and to our little one. Perhaps just a preview of what he has in store for her, and for us.
                After a few minutes she fell asleep in my lap…I think that made walking away from her a little easier for Evelyn and Earl (if there is such a thing). Hadley only slept for a few minutes, and when she woke up she just looked around the room taking everything in. I remember praying a prayer of thanks for God bringing this sweet girl into our lives… Then we sign a few sheets of paper, and Helen was telling us it was time to go. I was amazed at how that entire process went down. Show up, show your passport, hand them a piece of paper, and they hand you your child. Seems kinda simple don’t it?
                We got into our van and we headed back to the hotel. Hadley loved to ride in the car, and laughed and giggled the entire way. Once we made it into our rooms we started going through her suitcase. It is full of some amazing things. Videos, toys, lots of clothes, books, and photos of our little one. In that suitcase was most of Hadley’s history. What I feared I could never give her, was sitting right in front of me. Thank you Baobei for providing us with such a priceless gift!!!
                We met back in the lobby to go eat with Helen and Michael & Mary. Helen took us to a nice restaurant, I’m trying to take the food here in but it’s just not working out to well for me. The chicken Helen ordered had small tiny bones in it. I ate one piece and thought “oh this had a little piece of bone in it” after the second piece went in my mouth I spit it straight out on my plate. I then just stuck with eating the rice and vegetables. 




                Bedtime was easy, Hadley wanted me to take her shoes and socks off, she let me brush her teeth, and then we laid her down. She never made a peep. She slept like a baby until 7:00 a.m.

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